TODD SAND: Born April 9, 1955, Phoenix, AZ

TODD SAND: Born April 9, 1955, Phoenix, AZ

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Todd touched so many of our hearts. He made us feel important and always good about ourselves. Yet because of this disease he could not often feel the love and care his family and friends offered. His depression became so intense that the disease often robbed him of the ability to work or function with his love ones. The illness only provided him with little or no feelings of being loved, isolated, and helpless. This type of depression stole his life and continues to steal other lives like Todd. We must Survive this Depression NOW and to this end our goal for these monies are to increase awareness, education funding, and provide direct services who suffer from depression and bipolar disorders.

Thoreau said “To affect the quality of the day is the highest of the arts”. Todd was a very accomplished in this art; he positively impacted everyone he came in contact with each day. Every brother and sister, niece and nephew, friend, and colleague felt they were his favorite! And they wanted to be his favorite because to be loved by Todd was good! That is the insidiousness of depression that someone so valued could feel so worthless. Depression is the worst thief; it robs you not only of your love of self but of the acceptance of the love of others.


Todd came into this world April 9, 1955 in Phoenix, AZ. He was raised in Marcus, Iowa and attended Ames High School in Ames,IA. He is a graduate of Mankato State University, Makato, MN. After college, he secured employment with North Central Airlines and after several merges with other airlines Delta Airlines became his employer. Some thirty years ago he met his lifelong domestic partner Ralph Tardugno. At the time of death, they lived in Palm Springs, California.

The illness and Heartbreaking Tragedy

Some twenty years ago, Todd started experiencing depression from time to time. This is NOT the type of depression we all experience from time to time. His depression would keep him from being the outgoing, friendly and loving person who was admired by so many. He would lock himself away from all his friends and family and suffer great pain of isolation and loneliness.He would often shake violently and become dis-functional.After many cries for help, treatments, hospitalizations, various and different medications, his illness turn to longer durations and more often. After the most recent hospitalization, Todd returned home and lost his battle with depression in a traffic accident. He was taken from us as a result of this disease on Friday, June 4, 2010.
WE must Survive this Depression Now, and help those who have chronic depression and bipolar disorder before it robs another life. Please help DBSA with a donation so others may avoid a fate like Todd and so many others. Your pledge is deeply appreciated.

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Randy Yamamoto
Sat, Jun 26, 2010
FOREVER in my heart...your warm and radiant smile...FOREVER in my mind our wonderful vacations in europe & Hawaii...FOREVER...FOREVER...My dear friend...YOU ARE AT PEACE.....My deepest condolences to Ralph, close friends and family...

Kem Pries
Fri, Jun 25, 2010
My heart goes out to Ralph and Todd's family. He was a great friend and co-worker that always gave you his full attention. I had the pleasure Of working an 8 day trip about 6 months ago and will now cherish the memory of that trip. Todd will be greatly missed and may he rest in peace.

Joyce Boydstun
Thu, Jun 24, 2010
I have such lovely memories of working with Todd at North Central in the 'early years' of our fun careers and then during my last years of flying in LAX as Northwest.....
My heartfelt sympathy to Ralph and also Todd's family.....
May he rest in peace and he will be remembered and loved by many.

Kathy Hendricks
Mon, Jun 21, 2010
I will never forget Todd. We worked together for years in SLIC, and shared Iowa roots. He was always kind and gracious and good-natured, and I loved to hear his chuckle when we talked on the phone. My deepest sympathy to Ralph, and to Todd's family.

Larry Stamets
Fri, Jun 18, 2010
I share so many sentiments which I've read here. My condolences to Todd's family,close friends and to Ralph. His personal anguish may have been hidden at so many turns, yet he never shortchanged us of his beautiful personality and smile. I am privileged to have had Todd be a part of my life. Todd, you're dwelling place now is in eternal peace.

Terry Gustafson
Fri, Jun 18, 2010
I am still in shock. Todd's warm personality and thoughtfulness touched us all. I always enjoyed running into him on the line. He had a way of making me feel good whenever I saw him. I will miss you Todd!

Thu, Jun 17, 2010
Todd, more than ever, your passing soaked within my heart today that has not been at ease since you left. Coming to a realization we shall not see each other till I arrive at YOUR station. How did our lives travel so quickly? It was only yesterday we met, and now some 20 yrs later you exit, but not from my soul or heart where even death doesn't rule. As you know, my heart is once again cracked as when Bridgette left. As her, I had you for such a short time, but knowing you two are together brings a glow deep within my soul. Bridgette in your arms and care brings moments of silent peace. I know you hold her with all the love you gave us. My FRIEND, I hope NOW you know how much we all loved You. You took us to heights with friendship we never realized existed. You, our ANGEL, watched over your flock with such great care, admiring each of us for who we were and never passed judgment on our deeds. We learned so much from you in such a brief period of time. Thank you! So difficult to let you travel ahead - we need and love you so. Your warming, beautiful smile, wit, and dearly beloved conversations, plus your hugs are our treasures that we keep personally in our minds and hearts. As you know, mine are never far. Keep your candle lit so there is no darkness and it shall mark the way for me to find you two. GOD BLESS YOU my dearest friend - an angel on earth that loved us all even when his loneliness and pain were so great. We will all watch over Ralph till we all arrive together. No goodbyes here; just "SEE YOU LATER" I love you, my dear friend, donald t.

Laurie Norton
Wed, Jun 16, 2010
The irony still astounds me. Todd was always so supportive and strong whenever his friends were down. I'll never forget a long talk we had over dinner in HNL one time. I was going through a hard time and he, as always,proved what a compassionate friend he was. I hope he knew the respect and love I had for him.My heart goes out to Ralph and his family.

Bob Pedersen
Tue, Jun 15, 2010
Ralph, David and Sand family, My heartfelt condolescences go out to all of you over the loss of Todd. His legacy and shared memories were cut short but his time with all of us will remain resolute and strong. I am proud to have known him as my colleague, my mentor, my neighbor and most importantly my dear friend. With love and continued support.

Jim Runyan
Tue, Jun 15, 2010
I am so so sad right now I can't even grasp the magnitude of these events! I just loved Todd so much - and I am devastated to learn that he was in so much anguish. How he was able to hide his demons for so long - I don't know. I will always remember him as a kindhearted, warm & caring soul. Without him there is a hole in humanity!

Kent Wilson
Tue, Jun 15, 2010
Words fail me right now, but I think we are all feeling the same sadness. Todd was a wonderful human being. The great mystery is how this man could be adored and not know how much he meant to us. I will always remember Todd with love and happiness and recall him as he was during his best times. My sincere condolences to his family and to Ralph.

Ana Rasmussen
Tue, Jun 15, 2010
Dear Todd, You were loved by so many- I wish you knew. How you touched the lives of those who knew you with your patience, kindness and gracious ways. It is with great sadness in my heart that I say good-bye to you as I so vividly see your brilliant smile gazing back at me. You will always be in my heart and in my memories and will forever be missed by those that were so fortunate to have known you. Rest in Peace Todd.
With love and respect,
Your friend,

Anne Priebe
Mon, Jun 14, 2010
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, Love leaves a memory no one can steal. Todd you are loved and will be missed.

Charlie Ciali
Mon, Jun 14, 2010
It is so hard to believe that you are not here with us anymore. When I first came to LAX you made me feel so welcomed and then we discovered that we both lived in Palm Springs and you opened your home and heart to us. You brought a smile to everyone that met you. Thank you Todd for being a friend and sharing your life with us.

Jayne Robertson
Sun, Jun 13, 2010
We have been neighbors of Ralph and Todd for almost 9 years. My association with them has been that of passing conversations as we would meet walking our dogs around the neighborhood. I loved Todd's gentle nature, willing smile and always sensed his authentic soul and genuine self. May he be at peace and may our love continue to support Ralph in this most trying of times.

Sun, Jun 13, 2010
In Eternal Memory of our Beloved Todd.
We were all so blessed to have known and loved Todd. Our hearts are broken because we did love him so and he left too soon.
I will never, ever forget those twinkling eyes, that gorgeous grin, that perfect posture, that beautiful deep voice, and his gentle teasing. When ever Todd was around, things were happier.
Some of my best memories center around Honolulu layovers. We talked often about our mutual love of the Island of Molokai.Seeing him wearing a lei is how I will always remember him.

It breaks my heart to think that my dear friend was suffering so. I hope that Ralph and Todd's family know how much he loved you. He talked about you all the time.
Rest in peace our precious, darling Todd. You will always live in our hearts. We hate to let you go, but we know you are no longer in pain. Now we just to figure out how to live in a world without you...
I loved you so much,

Thomas & Robert Van Etten
Sun, Jun 13, 2010
Dearest Todd,
You will be missed by all of us who have loved you during your life. You are now an Angel looking out for Ralph and your family and your extended family of friends. May you rest in peace dear friend, your suffering is over.

Joanne Tillson
Sun, Jun 13, 2010
To Rodger and Todd's Family: I only see Todd as a Flight Attendant. As a co-worker Todd was always smiling, always in good humor and always a professional. As our computer mentor he was more a friend. Whenever you needed him, he was there. We were so lucky to have him around the office in Los Angeles so much. A bright spot in our work lives. My deepest sympathy to you all, May God Bless you with peace and comfort soon. I will keep you all in my prayers. May he rest in peace.

Curt W Ruszczak
Sat, Jun 12, 2010
I am deeply saddened by the passing of Todd. I was in NRT when I found out via computer. I went into shock!!! How can that be? Well as they say "More will be revealed".I had the chance to work back to LAX with his good friend Rick. I think we supported each other.It is so very sad. Todd always had a smile,always would help you with a bidding snafu. He was so so professional as F/A and Purser.He was just overall a great man!! My prayers go out to Ralph,Todds immediate Family & his close friends.Todd I will also remember just how pleasant he was and his smile....I hope that a power greater than myself has Todd safe & secure now.

Dana Alford
Sat, Jun 12, 2010
I am so sorry to hear about Todd's depression. After working with him at SLIC for so many years, I wonder how this could be. We always had the best times together and I never saw Todd without a smile upon his face, I am truly blessed to have been able to call him a friend. I enjoyed every moment I ever spent with him and always hoped to spend some quality time out in Palm Springs with him (being a So. Cal girl, we used to talk about it all the time). I think back to stories he used to tell and friends he used to talk about....I WILL miss him.....may God be with him, his family, his friends and Ralph at this time...remember all the happy times with him and he will remain ever close to your heart....with my love... Dana

Wanda Murray
Sat, Jun 12, 2010
Todd always had a great smile and was eager to help his coworkers. He will be missed greatly. Our thoughts and prayers are with Ralph and Todd's family.

Tom Biermann
Sat, Jun 12, 2010
I am so sorry to hear this news. My sincere sympathy to Todd's family, friends and loved ones. He will be missed by all of us who worked and came in contact with him.

Gloria Casillas
Sat, Jun 12, 2010
It brings much sadness knowing what Todd has gone through. I also had no idea he suffered from this disease. I'll always remember his great smile and his genuine care for others. Todd always treated me w/kindness. My heartfelt condolences go to his loved ones. May you find peace in the wonderful memories you hold dear in your hearts. He was a truly wonderful person.

Fri, Jun 11, 2010
Where does one begin .... Todd was a wonderful man ... a wonderful human being. Seeing the picture above brings tears to my eyes. I did not know the depths of his depression, but know he will be loved and missed. My thoughts and prayers to Ralph and Todd's family.

Goldie K. Chun-Shannon
Fri, Jun 11, 2010
For every memory in my heart, this brings a wish for peace for Todd.
Life is not made up of great sacrifices and duties, but of little things; in which smiles and kindness given habitually are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort. God loves you and so do I.

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